Saturday, August 20, 2016

DO YOU KNOW A SOCIAL MEDIA BULLY?

As parents, we are horrified when our kids come home to tell us they have been bullied, and right away we want to fix it.  The thought of someone hurting our family physically or verbally makes us cringe inside.  In fact, according to www.standforthesilent.org,  55,000 children over the past 7 years have committed suicide due to bullying!


But when we as adults disagree with a political post, the shape of someone's body, or whether Ryan Lochte was or wasn't robbed, we lose our minds and go on the attack with perfect strangers!  No one is expected to agree with what everyone says - that's what makes the world go round, but dang it, why in the world do we start calling people hateful names or threaten to come to their homes and beat them up? 


The initial reason that I started using Facebook was to enter sweepstakes.  Then I realized there were a zillion authors out there that actually interacted with other readers.  Very cool! When I started this Blog, Social Media just seemed like the next step. Within this platform we see verbal attacks from authors to bloggers, political rants that are over the top, or people who don't like curvy women to post pics of themselves.  The list goes on and on and on. Facebook even has a page called Mean Insult Quotes with over 11,000 members.


Let's be honest.  Most people are not going to start a vicious fight in person due to a disagreement with someone else, but it does happen.  If we know that our views cause us to become passionate and crazy, we should do an Austin Powers and zip our lips.  That doesn't seem to happen with Social Media.  We type, the other person types, we think about typing, and then we're typing and sending again,  posting our feelings for all to see.  Forgetting that these heinous words depict portraits of our character as surely as if we wrote an autobiography. 

We shouldn't care if a person is pink or green, gay or straight, a little person or 7 feet tall, Catholic or Lutheran, curvy or thin. What should matter are our hearts and how we treat each other even when we disagree.

Each person has his or her own personal beliefs, and surely those points of views are not going to change when someone gets cursed out or degraded in print.  Some people deal with this by ignoring those posts, others jump on the bandwagon, and a few just get blocked.

But I go back to the first paragraph of this post.  We don't want to see our children, friends or family hurt by bullying, right?  Bullying any way that it's done is abuse. It's painful, not funny or cute, 
and it's wrong.






22 comments:

  1. Yep, I have run across some pretty opinionated people in my feed and I have zero tolerance for bullies. You don't have to agree but you need to respectfully state you opinion. I am often amazed at the way in which we respond to each other via media.

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    1. Ditto on that one Kool Kim. What happened to the respect?

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  2. Very important post. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Angela, you are always so supportive and I love ya! Hugs...

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  3. This is so true and sometimes a super hard topic for people to talk about. I know how upset I was when my little cousin came home, telling me that some kids had been bullying her at school. I was pleased that she didn't allow them to and knew to take up for herself but at the end of the day, it's scary and so sad to think about. :(

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    1. Sadly, it's a tough topic, and sometimes we feel at a loss of how to handle it. Kudos to your cousin for hanging in there. Give her some HUGE Hugs from me!

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  4. Bully...asshole. Eh. I think sometimes bully is overused these days. Like a lot of hot topic words. I do know a number of social media assholes who really let it show over politics. I've been called some hateful things and blocked a number of people. They weren't what I'd call bullying. They're just sucky people who are jerks.

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    1. You said, Anna! Sometimes people are just mean, and have no control. I'm not going to lose my temper over politics or anything else for that manner on social media. Don't want my name out there for the world to see me acting like a butt! (lol)

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  5. We are twinsies b/c I recently posted about this, too, after getting frustrated that people get out of hand on social media. So glad to see you addressing this, Ro. We really do need to find a way to express an opinion and receive opinions without being jerks about it as Anna says.

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    1. I remember your prolific post Super Sophia and loved it because it was right on point! I was watching a program where a celebrity has a son who is being bullied, which was so hard to imagine. Then I thought about all the rants I've been seeing on Twitter and Facebook, and even some other celebrity blogs. Some of those comments towards people I'm sure they don't know were shocking. But bullying a child is even worse. That suicide rate is horrific! Love ya!

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  6. I try not to get involved in the political posts on fb and such. I try not to get into social media fights but I have a big personality and some things really bother me and I say so at times. I think it's ok to have a different opinion than other people, it's how you go about stating your opinion that gets out of hand.

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    1. I totally agree about not getting into the social media fights. Just not worth it. Like you, I believe in having a difference of opinion in a calm manner before attacking a person's character. It's all in how it's handled.

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  7. I am sick of seeing the nasty insults on both sides of the political fence, as well as the generalizations people throw around as if every Republican or Democrat is a stereotype.

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    1. I agree. No need for rude or hurtful behaviors and words that can't be taken back. Hugs...

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  8. I'm in a few Facebook groups and the behavior of some people amazes me. Mostly the trolls are the perplexing ones. They go in and deliberately post something they know will get people riled up, then sit back and laugh. What's the point in that?

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    1. I don't get it either, Steph. It's not fun, and just gives off a bad image to the person, particularly as adults. I often wonder if this type of behavior happens while they are in the workplace or at a party. Crazy!

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  9. Social media just escalated and evolved bullying into a different level altogether. It starts with your relationship with your kids, they should feel safe to tell you if they're being picked on without the fear of being criticized for being weak. Consequently, we should not be biased to our children's behavior, we should call them out when it's obvious that they're being mean. Picking on someone, regardless if it's for their fashion sense or some shit, shouldn't be condoned. That's just a jerk move period

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    1. You are so right that it's evolved, and it saddens me. Kids should feel safe, and allowed to attend school without the added pressure of being bullied. And as parents, we definitely need to set the example. Doing crazy things on Facebook/Twitter and laughing about it, with the possibility of our kids and their friends seeing those posts is just the pits! Hugs...

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  10. I wish there was a way to stop bullying altogether and the internet and social media only have seemed to make it easier as people type without thinking and then it's on the internet before you know it. I wish people in general would be a bit less judging and more open minded.

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    1. You are so right. Once we hit that send button, it's out there and the damage is done, glaring in lights for us all to see. I agree, open-mindedness is key. I may not agree with something being said or done, but I'm not paying anyone else's bills (lol), so I have no right to be judging . (lol) I can learn a lot from some of those differences love and keep it movin'. " Can't we all just get along?" Hugs...

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  11. It's hard to imagine adults can school children on cyberbullying when it's so rampant on social media. I know lots of authors who shut down comments just to avoid that. Me, I monitor them and refuse to publish those that don't add to the conversation (meaning their main evidence rhymes with 'you're an idiot to think that way').

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    1. Hey Jacqui! I'm so thrilled you stopped by to say hello. I definitely agree with you. Kids use social media more than we do in many instances to communicate and find out news, and the mean-spirited behavior is global. I totally agree with you, and that's a great way to stop it in its tracks before something not relevant and hateful gets out there for the world to see. Kudos! HUGE Hugs...

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