Saturday, January 20, 2018

TRIVIA TIDBITS AND A TREAT


One of the places I visit regularly is Swagbucks where you can earn cash and gift cards for doing all kinds of stuff.  

During one of their daily polls, this was discovered when it comes to reading preferences.

Hardback/Paperback  -  67%
Kindle/Nook/Tablet   -  15%
Don't Read Books!!   -    9%   -  Say what?!
Audio                         -    7%

According to Pew Research Center in 2016, 26% of Americans say they haven't picked up a book in any form!

This is a good picture of me.(lol)
I can't imagine a world without books, so I keep something to read with me wherever I go.  But what about you? Are you still reading books in paper form, or is it more convenient to listen to audio, or use an e-reader? Have you stopped reading books, or prefer NOT to read?


FOOTBALL FANS UNITE
Get ready to munch to your heart's content on Superbowl Sunday.  Can you believe that this is the 2nd largest day for people to gobble up mountains of food AFTER Thanksgiving?

ARE YOU GAME?
HQ TRIVIA used to only be available on the iPhone,(itunes.apple.com) but now you can get chances to actually win real cash just for knowing useless stuff on android as well.  As of January 17, it's in beta phase, so be prepared for some buggy stuff if you download this version of the app from google plus, but you can also visit https://twitter.com/hqtrivia for behind the scenes news. You may be surprised to know that Jimmy Fallon, Barack Obama and Jimmy Kimmel are 3 of over 755,000 people who play pretty regularly. 
If you're wondering what type of topics could show up in 1 of those 12 questions designed to stump trivia buffs, you may want to brush up on the irregular plurals of nouns like platypus, octopus, and rhinoceros that we learned in grammar school.  YIKES! (lol)

   

GIVE ME FOOD AND FUN
The name Phil Rosenthal may not sound all that familiar, but he's the creator and executive producer of the old sitcom, Everybody Loves Raymond.  He's also the very funny star of Somebody Feed Phil, which was just released on Netflix.


If you're a foodie, and want to learn about traditional cuisine from other cultures mixed in with plenty of laughter and fun, be sure to binge on this program.

Six countries are featured on his show, and I had no clue that Tel Aviv is considered the vegan/vegetarian capital of the world!  During the program, he gets to hang out with well known chefs, Michael Solomonov, Michal Ansky and Uri Jeremias to name a few.


What's pretty neat is how he brings unknown fruits back to his hotel room and shows them to his elderly parents via Facetime.(lol)  It's also cool to see him mention his wife of 27 years quite often and with much affection.

VEGETARIAN KORMA - simple to make

INGREDIENTS
1 1/2 Tablespoons Vegetable Oil
1 Small Onion Diced Onion
1 Teaspoon Minced Fresh Ginger Root(You can use powdered ginger, but the taste may be less flavorful)
4 Cloves Minced Garlic
2 Potatoes Cubed
4 Carrots, Cubed
1 Fresh Jalapeno Pepper Seeded and Sliced
3 Tablespoons Ground Unsalted Cashews
1  4 Ounce Can Tomato Sauce
2 Teaspoons Salt
1 Cup Frozen Green Peas
1 1/2 Tablespoons Curry Powder
1/2 Green Bell Pepper, Chopped
1 Cup Heavy Cream
1 Bunch Fresh Cilantro for Garnish


DIRECTIONS
Heat the oil in a skillet over medium heat.  Stir in the onion, and cook until tender.  Mix in ginger and garlic, and continue cooking for 1 minute.  Mix potatoes, carrots, jalapeno, cashews, and tomato sauce.  Season with salt and curry powder.  Cook and stir for 10 minutes or until potatoes are tender.

Stir peas, green bell pepper, red bell pepper, and cream into the skillet.  Reduce heat to low, cover, and simmer for 10 minutes.  Garnish with cilantro to serve over rice.



WHAT ARE YOU DOING THESE DAYS?


In between reading

Hard to put down!


Working on March


    Been working on some special projects, slipping in reading a non-stop action novel by James Rollins, and updating my planner.




Just in case you haven't heard the news, Ed Sheerhan popped the question to his longtime girlfriend Cherry Seaborn over the holidays, and they're now officially engaged.  He made the announcement on Instagram along with a picture of the two.  So far, he's received over 4 million LIKES for that announcement! Congratulations!


Saturday, January 13, 2018

FUN STUFF YOU MAY NOT WANT TO KNOW & A COOKIE CRAVING

Has anyone seen the commercial from GEICO where the Sloth is drawing a tandem bicycle for game night?  I declare that every time it comes on, I giggle like a little kid because it's just so darn cute, and the people trying to guess the puzzle are really intense.  Aren't you impressed that I stopped watching the Christmas Yule Log from last month, and switched to this? (lol)
TMI
YIKES!  Even though I'm from Baltimore, I haven't been back in years.  According to Orkin, Baltimore City has been named as the #1 city for bed bugs 2 years in a row.  Ugh!  Washington DC, which is right next door, ranked 2nd, followed by Chicago, Los Angeles and Columbus Ohio.

Do you remember Scrabble?  Are you pretty good at it?  There's a Scrabble Players Association that's been around since 2009, and their website is www.scrabbleplayers.org.  What's cool about this site is you can find out about winners, or search for clubs and upcoming tournaments throughout the US and Canada.

I remember taking the SAT when I was in high school, and my cousin and I had a bet on who would score the highest.  According to the US Department of Education, The College Board & National Center of Statistics, the following is true:

Arkansas           2% of students took the SAT during High School
Alabama           5%      "                                                         "
Connecticut     100%
Delaware         100%
Michigan         100%
Mississippi           2%
North Dakota       2%
North Carolina    49%   "                                               "
World Almanac 2018)     

HAPPY HAPPY DAYS
Was Happy Days one of your favorite sitcoms back in the day? It premiered in 1974, and I totally loved Henry Winkler as Fonzie.  He was so popular in fact, that every time he visited the library on an episode of the show, library card registration increased by a whopping 500%!!!! 

BOOKS, BOOKS AND MORE BOOKS
Is there nothing Amazon won't do?  You may be surprised to know that there are currently 13 Amazon Bookstores throughout the country that include California, Massachusetts, New York, New Jersey, Illinois, Washington and Oregon, and many include coffee shops to keep you hanging out even longer.  There are plans in motion right now to open up additional locations in Washington DC, Maryland and Texas.

SAVE ON GROCERIES
If one of your goals in 2018 is to save more money on groceries, be sure to check out Living Rich With Coupons, which is listed over in the sidebar, or www.couponmom.com.  Even if you don't use coupons, or they're not available where you live, try shopping at bargain supermarkets, or waiting until groceries have been marked down.  Here's a few tips:


1 )  Almost every Super Walmart has a cart they place in the back of the store with bread, cookies, cakes and other goodies that have been deeply discounted.  Also, in the front of the store near the deli, lunch meat, cheese, salads,and cooked chicken is unbelievably cheap.But get there early in the morning to catch these deals because they go fast.


2)  Carlie C's(IGA) gives away a FREEBIE every Friday, and they have a cart or shelf filled with lots of merchandise that may be damaged or has something missing from a package.  Get in there for those great bargains.


3)  Are you a Greek yogurt fan? Stay on the lookout for deals on Chobani, who will be changing their packaging.  They want to get rid of all that old merchandise.

USELESS TRIVIA
I took 2 years of French when I was in high school, and only used a little of it while visiting Montreal back in the 90's. Don't ask me to carry on a conversation in French these days though, because I can't remember one dang thing I learned. (lol) By the way, French is spoken by 76.1 million people.

The language in the world spoken by the most people is Chinese and includes Mandarin, with a total of 1,283.9 million people, Spanish comes in at #2 with a total of 437 million, and English is #3 at 372 million people. 

Now it's time for some tasty treats that you can eat while reading a good book or watching a movie on Netflix. Once again, I chose this recipe to spotlight because of its name, but some people actually call these magic bars or seven layer cookies. 

APPLE HELLO DOLLY BARS
INGREDIENTS
2 Cups Graham Cracker Crumbs
1/2 Cup Melted Butter
Vegetable Cooking Spray
12 Oz Pkg Semisweet Chocolate Morsels
12 Oz Pkg  Butterscotch Morsels
1 Cup Sweetened Coconut Flakes
2 Cups Peeled & Finely Chopped  Granny Smith Apples
1 1/2 Cups Coarsely(whatever that means-lol) Chopped Pecans
14 Oz Can Sweetened Condensed Milk


DIRECTIONS
1.  Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.  Combine graham crumbs and butter in a small bowl, then press onto bottom of a lightly greased (with cooking spray) 13 x 9 pan.  Layer semisweet chocolate morsels and next 4 ingredients in order from the list in the prepared pan, then drizzle with the condensed milk.


2.  Bake for 40-45 minutes, or until deep golden brown.  Cool completely in a pan on wire rack (about 1 hour), then cut into bars.





SILLY STUFF
Some of the laws that were written way back in the day are still around, and pretty funny.

If you live in Georgia, here are two that may have you scratching your head.

Donkeys may not be left in bathtubs.



All sex toys are banned.











Happy Birthday to my son who cannot be named - lol!

Monday, January 8, 2018

CHECK OUT THIS ABUSIVE CONVERSATION

Many therapists share this scientific scenario to help victims of verbal abuse understand how they've been conditioned.

Place a frog into a pan of scalding water on a stove and the frog will immediately jump out; however, if you place that same frog into a cool pot of water, then gradually increase the heat, it will literally boil to death.  That sounds scary, yet that's exactly how verbal abuse can progress.  When little things start to happen, we may or may not notice them, but as they continue, we find that we've adapted until we become shells of our former selves.  Verbal abuse is considered domestic violence, and is very dangerous.

Here is a real conversation between a couple that I've been friends with for quite some time, and as you read this, I promise you'll shake your head.  While these scenarios focus on the woman as the abused, please know that men may also be victims.

Husband:  I don't know why you bought that picture and put it in the living room.  It doesn't even match the rest of the furniture, and it probably cost too much.

Wife:  Yeah, you're probably right, it doesn't really match. Actually, *Janet gave it to me.  I just loved the colors so much and wanted show it off if we have visitors. That's why I put it in the living room.

Husband:  It does match with the living room furniture even though the colors suck.  Does your friend Janet think we need her charity? She's always passing off her stuff on us.  What's wrong with her?

Wife:  You're right, it's a really good match.

Husband:  How in the world can you say that picture goes with anything that's in this living room? You're crazy! (Raising his voice)

Wife:  Okay, maybe the colors are not quite right.  I'm with you.

Husband:  That's not what's wrong with it, you idiot.

Wife:  I'm just really trying to understand what you're saying.

Husband:  No you're not.  You just want to twist everything I say around, like you always do.  I can't talk to you because you never make any sense!

Do you see the dynamics of this dialogue? There's literally no way there can be a healthy conversation despite the wife's attempt to please her husband. Every attempt is met with resistance, and this is just about a picture on the wall!

Here's another example of verbal abuse disguised as joking comments:

"You'd fall apart or kill yourself if I wasn't here to take care of you".
"All the women on my job tell me all the time how lucky you are and that you need to straighten up".
"You need to know your place".
"Your feet are so small, it's a wonder you don't topple over from the size of your head".
"What else can I expect?  You're only a woman".

If you respond by saying you aren't amused, you're then angrily accused of not having a sense of humor, or what's been said is no big deal.

Or perhaps this has happened to you during a conversation:

Wife:  I really need to talk to you about something that happened at work today.

Husband:  (Covering his face and sighing) What is it?

Wife: Silent because she's afraid of his reaction.

Husband:  Glaring.  Come on, I don't have all day.

Wife:  They're during some restructuring at work-------

Husband:  Cutting off his wife.  What is taking you so long to get to the point?  You always have to drag things out!

Wife:  I'm trying to tell---

Husband:  Cutting off his wife again.  Look, this is taking too long, then gets up and walks away.

As kids, we learned early on that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me", yet we now know that this quote is fictional.  In fact, verbal abuse produces dramatic consequences that include loss of self-esteem, lack of confidence, fear, doubt of self-worth, and wondering if something is wrong with our own thought processes.  The life we lived is in the past, our successes, and feeling good about who we were, is no longer valid.

Being called horrible names, cheated on, degraded or embarrassed in public, humiliated around strangers or even family members is not how we should be treated.  Perhaps you are constantly blamed for things which have nothing to do with you, or everything you do is wrong.  You're at the point where you're ready to pull out all your hair with frustration, and doubting your own sanity.

If this has or is happening, you're definitely not alone.

If you can safely, seek assistance from someone you trust, or contact a domestic violence shelter who can provide valuable information.  There are people who care.

 Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

For more valuable information, visit:  

 https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/self-esteem/self-esteem-why-do-i-feel-worthless/






NINE TYPES OF ABUSERS - Who are you really living with?


Periodically, I talk about domestic violence, which is not pretty or glamorous.  Sadly, it affects people we know, work or shop with.  Sometimes it's physical, but more often than not, it can also be verbal. 

At first, he'll tell you he's sorry - maybe.  Eventually, it will become second nature while you live in fear. It's 2018, yet many still consider abuse to be a silent crimeEven worse, people either don't believe it exists, or blame the victim!

Lundy Bancroft brilliantly focuses on the mind of the abusive man, in his book  "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" and when he shares that there are actually 10 types of abusive personalities,
( I didn't include the 10th) I was stunned.  Take a look at this information, and ask yourself - "Who am I living with?"  Do you see your partner on this list?

The Demand Man - There's nothing wrong with being old-fashioned, but this type of abuser believes it's your job to take care of him, 24/7.  You have no right to ask him to do anything, including cleaning up after himself - in fact, it may make him angry enough to verbally or physically assault you in retaliation. If he is unhappy about anything, it is clearly your fault.


The Mr. Right Man - knows everything and refuses to listen to any of your opinions, ridiculing you and your lack of intelligence.  When he speaks to or about you, he insults your lack of sense, belittling you whenever possible.  Worse, he's an expert on everything about your life and how you should live it to please him.  If you foolishly disagree with his expertise on anything, you're mistreating him.


The Water Torturer -  cleverly attacks his partner without ever raising his voice or showing anger, but he uses subtle, consistent sarcasm and cruel remarks to wear you down. He twists your words in public to discredit you.  He never yells, but emotionally attacks you until during an argument, and you end up yelling or crying while he laughingly calls you irrational and crazy.  No matter how mean he is to you, there's nothing you can do. Sadly, his friends and family don't understand and take his side.
 

The Drill Sergeant - this man is extremely controlling, getting the password to voicemail and listening to messages, criticizing the clothing you wear,  or checking up on you at work.  This is the jealous one, who will frequently accuse you of cheating.  This man may escalate from verbal assault to physical violence, and because he has his thumb on your life, makes it difficult to get away.  He believes that you don't need to have anyone in your life and absolutely abhors the thought of you having any type of independence.


Mr. Sensitive - seems like your knight in shining armor - warm, sensitive and willing to hug at a moment's notice.  Unfortunately, if you ever say something to hurt his feelings, you'll never hear the end of it, wanting you to apologize over, and over and again. Soon, it seems if as if you're saying the wrong thing all the time, making him feel bad.  However, if he says something to hurt your feelings, he says, "it's no big deal. get over it".  Soon, he'll blame you for everything wrong in his life and out of sight of others, becomes mean or intimidating.  In fact, he finds joy in trying to get inside your head and wants you to feel joy that he's not like all those other men who are abusive.


The Player - is normally exceptionally attractive, and may be a bad boy.  At face value, he may be the man we read about in a romance novel and fall madly in love with.  When you and he first connect, he makes you feel like the most special woman in the world and feel grateful to know him.  As time goes on, however, you notice that his eyes start to wander while you're out in public and he is blatantly disrespectful as he flirts with other women.  Rumors start to get back to you that he is interacting with women using inappropriate sexual conversations, asking them out to lunch or outright cheating.  Because he plays each woman against the other, they end up hating each other rather than him.  His flirting and cheating allow him to get away with other types of mistreatment such as lying, callous treatment and verbal put downs, particularly when he is caught.  Beware of the gaslighting.


The Rambo - aggressive with everyone, this man intimidates,creating fear and definitely has no patience for weakness.  He doesn't believe in compassion and can be extremely abusive both verbally and physically. However, during the beginning of the relationship he appears to be caring and protective, making most women swoon.  This doesn't last because he really has no respect for women in general.  His job is to keep you in line.


The Victim - this man is very self-centered and believes that everyone should feel sorry for all the things he has been through.  Every relationship he's been in, he's been abused and taken advantage of.  He is treated unfairly at work, by friends he trusted and even you.  You have abused him so badly that he has to give it back to you so you know how it feels. In his mind he has been hurt so badly that he should get away with anything including the abuse.


The Terrorist - is very controlling and demanding, often threatening and enjoying his ability to cause pain.  Seeing you in fear brings him joy. You can't have any independence, and he will use many tactics to stop you from leaving.  Living with this type of man is extremely traumatic and dangerous, as you live in constant fear of your safety. If you do get away, this man may be likely to stalk you.


No matter who you live with, there is never a reason to be abused, and it's definitely NOT your fault.  Abuse is about the constant need to control and manipulate another person.


When you safely can, seek help from someone you trust such as a pastor or neighbor or friend.  You deserve the best life has to offer.



The National Domestic Violence Hotline # - 1−800−799−7233