Monday, January 8, 2018

HANDLING ABUSIVE COMMENTS



Have you ever heard the quote, "Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?

We used it alot back in the day in response to bullies in school or during recess. But that familiar phrase has been around since at least the 1860's.  Thankfully, I'm not sure people even use the term any longer.

We now know that this quote is inaccurate, and may be the reason that many people have  grown up believing that verbal abuse is okay.  
Sometimes when you're on the receiving end of verbal abuse, you may not have a clue what to say to just get it to stop.  So you may find yourself becoming depressed, angry, bitter, fearful or even resigned as you continue to deal with the disrespectful behavior of being lied to, humiliated, cheated on, gaslighted, degraded or personally attacked. There's no doubt that this can be a nightmare to cope with. As difficult as it may be, the key is not to fall into the act of defending yourself, because it will almost never work, particularly if the person you're dealing with is a narcissist.   But an abuser doesn't necessarily have to be a narcissist.

Keep in mind that verbal abuse is considered a part of domestic violence and is about control.  

Some people may assume that a narcissist  just has a really large ego, but there's actually more to consider.  Narcissism is an actual psychiatric condition that's considered a personality disorder. This person has a sense of entitlement, a total lack of empathy for others, and an  unrealistic need for admiration.  In an effort to make sure he or she is consistently portrayed as better than everyone else, they are intolerant of others and will degrade, humiliate, blame or discount them.   They are often clueless that they have hurt someone's feelings, and don't care. Despite the inflated egos and big personalities, they cannot handle any type of criticism and will overreact with unrealistic anger and hostile behavior.  Now we have a verbally abusive situation.

Dr. Irene Matiatos is licensed in New York and North Carolina as a Psychologist who specializes in all forms of abuse. She gives great feedback on what you may be feeling, as well as suggestions on what to say so you can make attempts to get off of the emotionally abusive roller-coaster.  As you look at her example below, I'm sure some of the language will sound very familiar. 

Also, it's important to remember that verbal abuse is not always easy to see. Please know that help is available with your local shelter or someone you trust.


Getting Defensive

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Rachael was preparing a special dinner tonight for Larry. Forever trying to please him, she had spent an hour at the market selecting the very freshest produce. She found a wonderful  bottle of Cabernet! Rachael was looking forward to dinner - when she heard a loud thud inside...
Larry smacked his magazine on the floor and bellowed, "Look at this house! It's disgusting! What do you do all day Rachael? Sleep? He pulled a small plastic child's toy from under the seat of His chair. It had been pinching him. "I work all day and I don't need this. You are home all day. You can't keep the house clean, you can't keep the kids quiet! You can't you do anything right! Do you do this to me on purpose?"
Rachael's mood broke. "Please don't do this now," she pleaded under her breath as Larry continued ranting. When he got in this mood, he accused her of all sorts of things she would never dream of doing. "How could he misunderstand me so?" she sadly thought as she began to defend herself - so he would understand
Larry and Rachael's Conversation

STOP! When you defend yourself, you put yourself in the position of justifying your actions to others. You seek understanding, agreement, empathy, recognition of what's really going on, etc. This is OK in an ordinary relationship. It's not OK in an abusive one:

#Since everything you say can and will be held against you

#Since defending yourself puts you in a one-down, where you are asking for approval, congruence, permission, etc.

#Your abuser is looking for a fight; not for understanding

#Since you are taking the "bait" and engaging in a "no-win"

Below find some non-defensive, disengaging responses to typical abusive comments. The abuser's objective is not to impart understanding. Your partner wants to provoke you. Your objective is to remain calm, disengage and avert provocation!  Engaging is a no-win!
"There's nothing to talk about."  OK. 
(Think: My partner is withholding; nothing I can do about it. So be it.)

"I've had it; I'm leaving!"  OK.
 (Think: Here is the door. I don't want you here if you don't want to be here.)

"Why should I tell you? You won't listen anyway." OK. 
(Think: Let him/her think whatever they want; they will anyway.)
"You're wrong!" OK. "What do you mean OK?" I mean OK.
 (Think: Who cares who is right or wrong!)

"I never said that." OK
 (Think: No point engaging. We both know the truth.)

"You're too sensitive." Yes. Respect my sensitivity.

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    1. Happy New Year Ms. Sophia and thanks so much for stopping by! I tried some of these and they really work. By the way, I gave you a kudos on my New Year's Message, Talk to you soon. Hugs...

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  3. Sounds good but if I keep getting berated, I'll just go nuclear and stop being nice. LOL

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    1. LOL! I hear you! Hugs...and Happy Saturday to you. Ro

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  4. I'm tired of feeling like I have to explain myself. I am put down daily and am just so low. It is hard to heal.

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    1. It's very frustrating to have to live with this type of situation. In fact, you should have the freedom of not having to explain anything you do. This is all part of controlling you. Hang in There. If you visit a domestic violence shelter, they will walk you through what you've experienced and offer help. I care, and hope you stay in touch. Hugs...RO

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  5. I'm tired of feeling like I have to explain myself. I am put down daily and am just so low. It is hard to heal.

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    1. You matter, your thoughts matter, your feelings matter. Please e-mail me, at your convenience. I care and want to help you. You deserve to be happy and appreciated! Hugs...RO

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    2. Thank you RO! I left! It has not been easy but I am starting the healing process. Thank you for responding and validation. I am not being verbally abused daily and I can breathe again.

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  6. After 6 years of abuse I have gone down to 95 pounds, started having uncontrollable tremors, have insomnia, PTSD, became severely depressed and am overweight. My body has been showing me just how bad the abuse was affecting me. He did not break my bones but what he said, over time, was slowly killing me. Thank you for letting me have a voice and responding with compassion.

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    1. That's a long time, and it pains me to know you had to suffer trough that instead of feeling loved and appreciated. I'm thrilled that you were able to safely leave that environment and are slowly getting your life back. Sometimes, it takes a lot of talking and validation, so I'm here to talk when you need to. Hugs...RO

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    2. Heather, just thought I'd check in. You've been gone for a year now, and just wanted to ensure things are still going well for you. Hugs...

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  7. I'm thrilled you posted this because that "sticks and stones" quote is a bunch of bull. I've always said (and believe me, please, I've never been abused by any man) if I have to be abused, let it be physical. The bruises will heal and the evidence can be captured on film. Verbal abuse is MUCH harder to pinpoint, because people tend to not believe you and it's difficult to document. Again, thanks for helping those who have trouble helping themselves. I'm also an advocate for the underdog, the abused, and the bullied.

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    1. You are so right on this one. Abuse is hard, but the verbal abuse becomes emotionally draining, and people really don't take it seriously at all. So sad. Thanks for the support and hope your weekend was amazing! Hugs...RO

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  8. I don't necessarily agree with you about emotional abusers having narcissistic personalities, but I certainly approve of your tips for dealing with emotional abuse. It is not necessarily just between husbands and wives but can happen in same sex couples too.

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    1. You're so right Andrew. Emotional abusers can be anyone, and sadly it can happen in any type of relationship. So glad you stopped by, and hope the rest of your week is fab! Hugs...RO

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  9. An informative, and important, post. Thank you.

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  10. Oh yeah, I know that rhyme. I grew up with it. It took me a while as an adult to realise how wrong it is and how damaging words can be.

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    1. Many of us, myself included, heard and lived by this. Like you, it took me some time to unlearn it. Hugs...

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  11. Wonderful thoughts and a great reminder really, very informative and the tips surely will go a long way. Greetings.

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    1. We hope it can make a difference for someone Blogoratti. Hugs...

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  12. I have a feeling someone who needs this will read it. There are so many people who endure this. And it goes beyond the home. There are abusive coworkers and bosses, abusive friends, abusive people on social media. I've even had a couple of freelance writing clients over the years who tried gaslighting me by making me feel worse about myself. I ended those working relationships as soon as I figured out what they were doing!

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    1. I agree, Steph, and hope it makes a difference. Abuse rears its ugly head in many forms. I cannot believe your writing clients tried to disrespect you in that manner. That had to be a nightmare, and thank goodness you got out of that. One word - karma. Hugs...

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  13. Love this. I was emotionally, verbally, and mentally abused as a kid and a teenager by a parent. It wasn't just me either, he did it to my mom for years until my sister and I were no longer minors and subject to having to spend time with him and she divorced him. To this day, he maintains that all his bad behavior (Being unfaithful, abusive etc) was actually my mom. SHE was the one having affairs according to him, and he was a "good husband and parent." So called family members believed him too and they still do.

    While I don't blame him for my depression diagnosis at 14, I do blame him for making it much worse and for warping my views of people and especially men for many years.

    Therapy works wonders, especially cognitive behavioral therapy. It helped me sort through things (I had a wonderful woman helping me for three years), and dump the toxic garbage that tried to pass itself as family.

    Recognizing you're being verbally abused is sometimes difficult. I didn't realize I had fallen into another pattern with so called friends in my mid twenties. They disguised the hurtful comments and bullying as joking and told me I was too "defensive" and "sensitive."

    Dumped them too.

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    1. My goodness, my heart goes out to you for having to suffer through that. Sadly, it's pretty clear that your dad has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and finds it impossible to ever take responsibility for anything, and everyone else is at fault. A relationship with this type of person almost never works. I'm thrilled that you found a good therapist to help you work through this, and know it wasn't easy. Abusers love to say and do hurtful things and pass it off as a joke, then tell us we're just too sensitive. That's part of the control. You did the right thing in getting rid of the toxic people. I'm so glad that things are better, and happy to know such a strong woman. Hugs...

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  14. I've been on the receiving end of this like a lot of us. It's difficult when the abuser is someone you love coz you end up making excuses for them or they even try to justify it.

    I personally think it's starts with us. Once we realize our worth, respect follows and one would tend to demand that from others too. Not necessarily being defensive but I personally am more brace now to tell people they can't talk to me in a certain way.

    Great post!

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    1. You're exactly right Braine. We accept it, and don't want to believe it's happening, and sometimes it gets even worse. Sadly, many of whom have been abused deal with self esteem issues that almost cripple us. The more we want to get away, the harder the abuser works to control us. You're right, once we get away from that, it can make it so much easier to focus on ourselves and to realize our worth so we don't end up in the same kind of relationship. You're a beautiful and smart lady, and I'm glad you can tell others to treat you respectfully as you deserve. Hugs...

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  15. It's sad to think that people are in these kinds of relationships.

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  16. I can imagine verbal abuse is harder to process as actual abuse for the victim. For physical abuse there's an act and possibly a mark that you can point to and say this happened but verbal abuse has such a vagueness. Not that I'm saying physical abuse is "easy". We all have our self doubts and to have someone continually put you down must be so spirit crushing. Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. You're absolutely right, Katherine. It is emotionally draining and keeps a person on edge, eventually affecting self esteem. Even worse, friends and family tend to think it's not real, making it even more difficult for the person to leave or seek help. Hugs...

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  17. I think verbal abuse leaves us feeling so impotent.
    I agree with the non-justifying but I think it would take a lot of determination and practice. We always want people to understand and agree with our point of view, instead of just accepting not everyone is going to understand and give their approval.
    As always, good post, Ro.
    Hugs,

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    1. I agree, Super Sandra. There is a feeling of powerlessness. The verbal abuse over time really begins to change the mindset of a person, eventually causing low self-esteem. It does take some practice for sure. Hope you're doing well and that your weekend was fantastic! Hugs...

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  18. I never really liked that phrase because I know it's not really true

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    1. So true Adam. Saadly, it's how many of us were raised, and believed to be accurate. Hugs...

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  19. i am normally a humble down to earth person but ultimate spontaneous response to such abusive words is not in my control or i don't want to control it

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    1. I hear you on that beautiful Baili! Hugs...RO

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    My name is ethan micheal ,am from USA.i want to share my wonderful testimony on how i got back my husband back, who i sworn ever to be with until when he left me to another woman for no reason and i try to make things work for both of us yet things where getting worse and i love him so much and there is nothing i could do to get my husband back until i met a testimony share by a woman called Stella tea from Australia on the internet talking about a powerful spell caster who brought her husband back within 24hours and i decide to give it a try and to my greatest surprise he also did it for me just as he did for Stella and i have a lot of people complaining of fake spell caster but this one i met was a real spell caster who help me to solve my problem i have no solution to,i introduce many of my best friends that have a similar problems,and their problem were solve with the great help of PRIEST WISDOM .who help them to get back their lovers within 24 hours.i am so happy that my husband is back to me again,and the most surprising thing is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of PRIEST WISDOM if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others.contact email supernaturalspell@yahoo.COM or supernaturalspell1@gmail.com you can call /whatsapp him through is mobile number +2348124644470

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  26. Hi everyone I'm Olivia Hannah and am here to share the wonderful work Dr Raypower did for me. After 5 years in marriage with my husband with 2 kids, my husband started acting weird and going out with other ladies and showed me cold love, on several occasions he threatens to divorce me if I dare question him about his affair with other ladies, I was totally devastated and confused until a old friend of mine told me about a spell caster on the internet called Dr. Raypower who help people with relationship and marriage problem by the powers of love spells, at first I doubted if such thing ever exists but decided to give it a try, when I contact him, he helped me cast a love spell and within 48hours my husband came back to me and started apologising, now he has stopped going out with other ladies and his with me for good and for real. Contact this great love spell caster for your relationship or marriage problem to be solved today via email: urgentspellcast@gmail.com or Call or WhatsApp: +14243308109.

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  27. REAL ONLINE LOVE SPELL CASTER THAT BROUGHT BACK MY EX LOVER YOU CAN EMAIL HIM on supernaturalspell@yahoo.com or supernaturalspell1@gmail.com whatsapp him +2348124644470

    I want to share my testimony, on how i was able to get back my husband around December 19th 2017 with the help of PRIEST WISDOM. My husband left me for over 1 years, and went on with another woman, and i awas unable to move on with my life, because of the love i have for her, last month i saw a testimony on the internet, on how PRIEST WISDOM help someone with love spell, so i never believe it but just have to try my faith which i did, and i contacted him on this email: supernaturalspell1@gmail.com and he told me what i need to do, and after 2 days i received a call from my husband asking me to come back to him, it was all like a dream to me, i am so happy now as we are back together again. Thanks to PRIEST WISDOM and i will advice anyone in need of help to contact him on his email: supernaturalspell@yahoo.com or supernaturalspell1@gmail.com Whats-app Number:+2348124644470

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  28. My names are Ashley Vivian, Am here to share a testimony on how Dr Raypower helped me. After 1/5 year relationship with my boyfriend, he changed suddenly and stopped contacting me regularly, he would come up with excuses of not seeing me all the time. He stopped answering my calls and my sms and he stopped seeing me regularly. I then started catching him with different girls several times but every time he would say that he love me and that he needed some time to think about our relationship. But cannot stop thinking about him so i decided to go online and i saw so many good talk about this spell caster called Dr Raypower and i contact him and explain my problems to him. He cast a love spell for me which i use and after 24 hours, my boyfriend came back to me and started contacting me regularly and we moved in together after a few months and he was more open to me than before and he started spending more time with me than his friends. We eventually got married and we now have been married happily for 3 years with a son. Ever since Dr Raypower helped me, my partner is very stable, faithful and closer to me than before.You can also contact this spell caster and get your relationship fix Email: urgentspellcast@gmail.com see more reviews about him on his website: http://urgentspellcast.website2.me Call or WhatsApp: +1 (424) 330-8109 also view his blog: https://urgentspellcast.blogspot.com/

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  29. am here to share with you my life experience on how a great man called Dr gbojie saved me and my marriage.I have been Married & Barren for for 5 years i had no child. i have never been pregnant i was a subject of laughter from my Friends & neighbors, i almost lost my marriage because of this issue.i was so confused that i did not know what to do until i came across this great Dr online and i contacted him at once i was scared weather it was going to work because i never believed things like this before, so i decided to give it a try and i did all what Dr gbojie asked of me and today to my greatest surprise i took in the first time and i gave birth to a bouncing baby boy and now my marriage that was about crashing before is now restored. my husband now love and want me better, Am so happy for everything that have been happening in my life since i met this Dr gbojie .I want to tell all the women/men out there who have a similar situation like mine,that the world is not over YET they should dry up their tears and contact this great man and their problem will be gone you can also contact Dr gbojie , here is how you can contact him gbojiespiritualtemple@gmail.com or contact him via his whatsapp phone number +2349066410185.or contact him on his website : http://gbojiespiritualtemple.website2.me

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  30. My name is ethan micheal ,am from USA.i want to share my wonderful testimony on how i got back my husband back, who i sworn ever to be with until when he left me to another woman for no reason and i try to make things work for both of us yet things where getting worse and i love him so much and there is nothing i could do to get my husband back until i met a testimony share by a woman called Stella tea from Australia on the internet talking about a powerful spell caster who brought her husband back within 24hours and i decide to give it a try and to my greatest surprise he also did it for me just as he did for Stella and i have a lot of people complaining of fake spell caster but this one i met was a real spell caster who help me to solve my problem i have no solution to,i introduce many of my best friends that have a similar problems,and their problem were solve with the great help of PRIEST WISDOM .who help them to get back their lovers within 24 hours.i am so happy that my husband is back to me again,and the most surprising thing is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of PRIEST WISDOM if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others.contact email supernaturalspell@yahoo.COM or supernaturalspell1@gmail.com you can call /whatsapp him through is mobile number +2348124644470

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  31. heal from broken heart" I wish I could find the right words to say how thankful i am to this love spell caster called Dr.Unity for bringing back my husband after he left me and our 3 kids for another woman.. After 12years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. I felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he could come back to me, I was really worried and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a Love spell for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day,our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before, All thanks to Dr Unity. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that Dr.Unity is real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need love spell to get ex lover back forever or save your marriage fast. Do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster Dr.Unity now. Here’s his contact:Call/WhatsApp: +2348071622464 ,Email: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com ,Website:https://unityspelltempleblog.wordpress.com,your kindness will never be forgotten!.

    Olivia Stephen form Tx,USA.

    HE CAST THE FOLLOWING SPELL'S

    LOVE SPELL

    BROKEN MARRIAGE SPELL

    MONEY SPELL

    LOTTERY SPELL

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  32. Genuine Effective Love Spell To Get Your Ex Back My advise reveal you all to contact Dr happy the best on love spell at happylovespell2@gmail.com, here is my relationship story. About a month ago I got back to my ex(after 2 and half years separated).Everything was ok and she was the most adorable woman in the world. she spoke about wedding ceremony, how many kids we would have, said that our relationship was the most important thing in her life and she was 100% sure about it…Then she traveled to work in other country for 3 weeks. she changed his behavior completely. she disappeared every night, was saying she had to do some work and would talk to me later, but disappeared the rest of the day and night… no explanation, when I asked why she was disappearing every night, she stopped answering me. she’s ignoring me since last week, April 15. she ignored even my birthday, that was April 16. Not even a message. I wrote to her a few times trying to understand what happened, she read but just ignored me.I feel so bad cause I couldn’t stop contacting and trying to understand what happened.i loved her so much and wanted to get her back, then i was told to contact happylovespell2@gmail.com who can help out with a love spell to reunite your relationship back, so instantly do contact him and give him a try and trust me he did an urgent effective love spell for me and with in 24hours promise he made to me, my woman was back, today i testify to you all that you should seek and contact Dr happy for his spell result is genuine sure and guarantee unite and get your ex back save your marriage/relationship problem now,
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  33. heal from broken heart" I wish I could find the right words to say how thankful i am to this love spell caster called Dr.Unity for bringing back my husband after he left me and our 3 kids for another woman.. After 12years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. I felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he could come back to me, I was really worried and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a Love spell for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day,our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before, All thanks to Dr Unity. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that Dr.Unity is real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need love spell to get ex lover back forever or save your marriage fast. Do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster Dr.Unity now. Here’s his contact:Call/WhatsApp: +2348071622464 ,Email: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com ,Website:https://unityspelltempleblog.wordpress.com,your kindness will never be forgotten!.

    Olivia Stephen form Tx,USA.

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  34. A real spell caster to help you bring back your ex lover urgent?contact Unityspelltemple@gmail.com is the best spell caster online" My name is Chryssy Berry from USA. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he can't forgive me for a mistake I made, I tried all i could to get him back but all to no avail until i saw a post in a relationship forum about a spell caster called Unity who helps people get back their lost love through Love spell, at first i doubted it but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this love spell caster and he told me what to do and i did it, Then he did a urgent Love spell for me. 28 hours later, my boyfriend really called me and told me that he miss me so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy, Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before, All thanks to Dr.Unity. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that Dr.Unity is a real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, If you are here and you need your Ex back or Stop your divorce and save your marriage, Do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster now,his result is 100% guarantee. Here’s his contact: Call/WhatsApp: +2348071622464 ,
    Email: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com ,
    Website:https://unityspellstemple.blogspot.com .

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  35. With a joy in my heart I want to use this medium to tell the world about Lord Nobel who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and i where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though i went to beg him several times to please forgive and accept me back because i know i offended him but each time i went i always feel more deeply in pain and agony because he always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what i have to tell but on i faithful day as i was browsing i came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was more than mine and yet Lord Nobel helped her with his spell so i was happy and also contacted Lord Nobel for help via email and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that i will wipe you tear with my spell so lucky for me everything want well just as he promised and right now i have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Lord Nobel can not do with his spell and just as promise my self i will keep testifying on the Internet of how Lord Nobel helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less i give you 100% guarantee that Lord Nobel will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Lord Nobel for help you can reach him no his Via email him at lordnobelspellcaster@hotmail.com or lordnoblespellcaster@gmail.com or you can call him or whatsppa him on phone + 1(817)755-0129 He will wipe you tear away

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  36. With a joy in my heart I want to use this medium to tell the world about Lord Nobel who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and i where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though i went to beg him several times to please forgive and accept me back because i know i offended him but each time i went i always feel more deeply in pain and agony because he always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what i have to tell but on i faithful day as i was browsing i came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was more than mine and yet Lord Nobel helped her with his spell so i was happy and also contacted Lord Nobel for help via email and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that i will wipe you tear with my spell so lucky for me everything want well just as he promised and right now i have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Lord Nobel can not do with his spell and just as promise my self i will keep testifying on the Internet of how Lord Nobel helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less i give you 100% guarantee that Lord Nobel will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Lord Nobel for help you can reach him no his Via email him at lordnobelspellcaster@hotmail.com or lordnoblespellcaster@gmail.com or you can call him or whatsppa him on phone + 1(817)755-0129 He will wipe you tear away

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  37. Excited, My Girlfriend Is Back Am Alexis scorpio from FL Usa my girlfriend cheated on me and asked for breakup. I don't believe at first i try to get back with her but all she told me was she’s with someone else. that she is no longer interested in marrying me at that point i was heart broken coz i love my girlfriend so much that i could not let go off her all of a sudden she left me, i really love her and never can imagine my life without her. not until i came across a powerful real spell caster Dr happy who promise me 24hours urgent love spell to get back with my girlfriend, good twenty-four {24} hours. hmm-mm, it was a good night time at 11:pm within the days that Dr happy told me that my girlfriend will be back, at first i heard the bell rings getting close to my door i heard someone saying honey!!!, it sound familiar i opened the door and i saw my girlfriend standing and weeping in front of me. i was not surprised because its all i have been praying for her to come back home. Guess what 2 weeks after she noticed her system and her body temperature was changed and i took her to clinic for check up and the doctor told me that there is life in her which means she was pregnant i really wants to use this opportunity to thanks Dr happy so much and the love page that directed me to Dr happy if you have any problem getting your ex back, or predicament that is worse or exactly like this you have been into, contact Dr happy on happylovespell2@gmail.com
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  38. My husband left me for a younger woman and I was devastated. It was as if she had him under an evil spell, Paul turned against me overnight without any warning. It happened last year, I was desperate so I used every single spell casting website that I could find with no results. A friend sent me the link to Dr. Todd's site and I contacted him. He started working with me on June. As a result from all of his wonderful work, my man and I are back together. I'm so happy and privileged to have such a great person like you on my side. Thank you! Todd's contact: manifestspellcast@gmail.com or website:https://manifestspellcast.wordpress.com http://manifestspellcast.blogspot.com call/text+1 (830) 239 0730

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  39. All thanks to Dr ZAZA just contacted this man after my husband of about 5years left me and to my surprise it took this man just 3days to bring him back to Dr ZAZA his the best spell caster around to solve any problem for you.
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  40. I suspected my wife of cheating on me but I never had any proof. This went on for months, I didn't know what to do. i was so paranoid and decided to find a solution, i saw a recommendation about a private investigator and decided to contact him. I explained the situation about my wife to him and he said he was going to help me.I gave him all the informations he required and afterwards i received all my wife’s phones Text messages and calls, I was hurt when i saw a picture of my wife and her lover. I feel so bad about infidelity. but i am glad Mr james was able to help me get all this information, you can contact him via email(worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) or Text/call : +12317945543

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