THE DESTRUCTIVE POWER OF VERBAL ABUSE

Do you remember the phrase when you were a kid, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?   It sounded cute back then, but in reality, the tongue is a mighty object, capable of causing words of love or  hurt and pain.  An abuser uses verbal put downs and insults to degrade someone, so that his faults can be minimized.

The verbal abuser is an expert at degrading you, until your self-esteem is at an all-time low, or you're in a state of constant confusion.

If you are being yelled at, called names, blamed for everything under the sun, cursed at, embarrassed out in public, or your words never seem to matter in a conversation, this is not a normal relationship and is considered domestic violence.  When an abuser treats you this way, it's NOT your fault, and is a way to control you.

Talk to someone you trust and get help when it is safe to do so.  If you live in NC, contact InterAct 1012 Oberlin Rd, Raleigh, NC  27605, 919 828-7740, or SAFE of Harnett County at 910-893-7233.  You may also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.  

YOU matter and remember that love should never hurt!

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