I've been working on some other projects, and thought I'd re-post this with a few updates.
In addition to getting yucky feedback from strangers when it comes to topics of abuse, friends and family avidly debate with me about my views.
If this is happening in your world, it is NOT your fault and you are NOT alone! I visited a Blog months ago that has become my new best friend. It's called: www.chumplady.com . In a word - WOW! This site has its pulse on cheating and everything associated with it. In addition, her readers are REAL people sharing pain, anger, feelings of remorse and even smiles. If you feel as if you're all alone, and that no one feels your pain, visit her site when you can.Words of Wisdom - her blog is busy and there are a ton of comments!
Sadly, abuse runs rampant in today's society. Many have grown to accept verbal degradation or cheating by minimizing it, laughing about it or pretending it doesn't exist. In addition, seeing someone with a black eye or a broken arm/leg may cause someone to whisper, but nothing is ever really done about it. Living with someone who gradually changes into a person who is no longer the person you knew is tragic. While cheating displays no blatant visible signs, the emotional degradation is mindblowing. Domestic abuse in any form is very real, demeaning, harmful and potentially dangerous to you or someone you love. Please don't ignore it.
Unfortunately for me, I have zero tolerance for cheating. I read a lot and watch a ton of movies, but if either hints at a situation where someone who is married is cheating, that movie is turned off and the book gets tossed aside. I see it as a total betrayal to the marital vows, and lose all respect for that person. These rigid beliefs can sometimes cause problems.
We can offer words of encouragement and be there when needed to those who are suffering.. We also hope that victims or survivors continue to grow by becoming part of a group if it is safe to do so. Support is the key.