HOOKING UP WITH A FACEBOOK/TWITTER FRIEND & ELLEN'S GIVEAWAY
I have two friends who interacted regularly because of their posts on Facebook, and eventually they met in person. Two years later,and they're living together with a 1 year old daughter. Ironically, most of his friends happen to be women, so you already know this has been a serious bone of contention in their relationship.
We're not Facebook friends, but he says some very crazy things on his pages, and they have often been disrespectful. This couple are also still friends on various Social Media platforms, so each can see what the other is talking about with other people. I wouldn't call this a toxic relationship, but it's not a Hallmark movie either. I should also mention that they are 25 and 20.
I'd like to think that we can get a fairly accurate portrayal of most of the people we meet via Social Media, or at least what we're expected to believe.
Keeping it real though, we don't always get what we see.
But it's one thing to meet a blogger that you have things in common with, but another thing entirely to get tied up romantically.
Then again, some people may simply consider this as a FREE Match.com. What are your thoughts? Would you get connected or have you hooked up via the pages of Social Media? Did it work out well?
ELLEN'S ANNUAL CHRISTMAS GIVEAWAY
I'm a fan of the Ellen Show, but I always make a point of watching her 12 Day Giveaway. If you look at the audience when they receive these gifts, they are over the top with glorious glee and appreciation.
So you can imagine my surprise when she put some people on blast during her program for selling things on Craigslist and eBay that they won last year. BUSTED! Click below to see the Youtube video.
If you won gifts from Oprah, Ellen, The Talk or Wendy Williams, or any program on television, would you re-sell some of the merchandise?
I do feel like I know some people quite well due to talking with them online. But it does seem like a big step to go from knowing each other online to hooking up in real life. Then again if it works out? I guess it doesn't matter as much how you met.
ReplyDeleteOn the one hand it seems weird to sell something you got through such a show, but then again if you don't like it, selling it to someone who does might be better. But then giving it away would seem like a nicer option.
Most of my interaction has been with authors, bloggers and some business owners. A few I've even met or worked with. I really like some of the things that guys are saying and they can be funny, but don't know if I could take that next step to romance. (lol) Giveaway sounds nice, but I bet that's probably low on the meter, sadly. Hugs....
DeleteI know that social media is the way a lot of the millennials meet these days but I think they need to make sure it's a good match before hooking up or living together. The younger generation seems to move in together really fast these days.
ReplyDeleteI agree, Mary. However, there was a study done recently that said divorce rates are down, which some say indicates people are waiting to get married, if at all. Times sure have changed, right?
DeleteI'm not a big fan of the idea of meeting through social media though I don't have a problem with Match and stuff like that. I guess social media seems like asking to be on an episode of Catfish! Plus it doesn't tend to bring out the best in people. Love Ellen! Definitely not in the spirit to sell what you won from there. I imagine she would have no problem with it being donated.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you Katherine, and know a lot of success stories from people who have used on-line dating services. I'm not sure about the Instagram/Twitter or Facebook thing, though. I know, right? I couldn't believe the way she caught them! (lol)
DeleteI met someone through MySpace in the blogging community back in the day. Yeah, it's always a bad idea! You don't know people until you get to know them in person! But it sounds like this dude is in a relationship, so he needs to cut that crap out.
ReplyDeleteLOL! I would love to hear about that story, Steph! He's a total **s, and knows I feel that way. The thing about meeting other bloggers is that we share the same hobbies, and there's not really any pressure, as it is with a relationship. Hugs...
DeleteI think is would be tough to meet up with someone you really don't know. My oldest met her husband through a chat room many years ago when the internet was relatively new... believe me I freaked out when he came for a visit. The thing with them is they chatted daily, talked on the phone for hours... luckily it worked out for them...
ReplyDeleteIf I were to ever get into a relationship again, I would not announce it on Facebook unless we decided to marry. Although I write about my life in my blog, I also feel there are certain things that should be kept to yourself. . . xox
Yes, I remember chat rooms from back in the day Launna, and met some truly interesting and unusual people. Glad it worked out for your daughter, and sounds like a real romance story. I agree, some things probably shouldn't make it to Social Media. It's definitely a balance game.
DeleteAahhh children. lol Hmmm I've met some of my favorite people via Facebook so in this day and age I could see getting involved with someone you met on there. But I'd want to get to know them offline as well before jumping into anything.
ReplyDeleteAnd gah it's CRAZY what some people share on social media. Free soap opera! lol
As bloggers we usually have so much in common, but the love relationship part would make me more nervous because I would think that person may have all these expectations that I could never live up to, and therefore embarrass myself. (lol) Some of the negativity is truly out there! Hugs...
DeleteHahahahah! I remember when I first opened a Facebook account in 2007 and this guy started messaging me thinking that I'm the type of girl who has online affairs with random strangers. Idiot. I shut that down pretty fast. Hubby and I would still laugh about it. ^.^
ReplyDeleteWhew! 2007, huh? I was still telling people I would NEVER get on Social Media. (lol) It never ceases to amaze me how people just assume that because we're on Facebook or Twitter that we'll jump into bed with just anyone right away. Crazy, right?
DeleteInteresting topic Ro! :) my current boyfriend and I met online on a language exchange website (he was learning English and I was learning Spanish) we've been together for almost 4 years now :) sometimes people don't understand when I tell them that or they get super judgmental but, hey, I'm happy, so what? *rant over* but I totally have has a random creep message me and want to get together. If I hadn't met my boyfriend that way, I probably wouldn't be dating online buttttt, who knows? :) awesome topic Ro! ♡♡ have an awesome day!!
ReplyDeleteWow! That sounds super interesting, and I'll bet you guys have cool stories to tell. What a blessing to be together for 4 years. Nothing matters as long as you're happy in a relationship no matter what way it came about. My son and his fiance met on-line as well, and they've been together for almost 7 years. Ironically, once they got together, they got off Social Media. (lol) Hugs...
DeleteI love social media but I believe it's a slippery slope when it comes to relationships. People tend to read too much into things and it can be invasive too not to mention provocative. Like instead of talking about shit, people tend to air it out for public consumption then would get mad if it gets out of hand or other people starts meddling. Sheesh!
ReplyDeleteHappy Holidays to you & yours!
I'm getting more used to Social Media, but I've found that people hide behind the pen or computer, or are always authentic, making it difficult to know the real person. I agree, if a person is brave enough to put personal info out there, it may trigger some negativity unfortunately. It is what it is.
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