The people I run into or hear about on a daily basis never cease to shock me, and I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried.
My friend *Amy recently moved and told me about her new neighbor *Jane, who lived next door. Jane was friendly, talkative and super eager to help my friend take some things into the house. Now Amy is nice, but until she gets to know someone, she can appear to be standoffish. She displays that demeanor because she is very shy. Meanwhile, Jane frequently reached out to Amy by asking her over to visit, or to offer her food. Jane always made these gestures of kindness when her husband wasn't around. Needless to say my friend really didn't want to be bothered.
A few days later while Amy walked to her car, she heard this: Shut the ***k up. I don't care about your ******g mother, and get your ass back in the house. You've probably already guessed that the man (I use the term lightly) speaking was Jane's husband.
You know - the guy you marry because he's madly in love with you. If you've ever seen the exorcist, you remember how Linda Blair's head spun around, and that's just what Amy's did. Then she glared at him with daggers before getting into her car.
Amy told her husband, who promptly told her to "mind her business", but now her job in life is to make Jane's husband miserable, and to spend as much time as possible with Jane.
As I think about this scenario, I know that Jane is in trouble, and so does Amy. Verbal abuse is horrible, and we're wondering what could be happening to her physically once the doors are closed and no one can see.
Have you ever had something like this happen while you were at a family gathering, a company function, or in your neighborhood. Do you just keep your mouth shut and say nothing, or will this guy be on your hit list? Do you get involved in a subtle way? How do you handle one good neighbor and one bad neighbor in the same house when you live right next door?
Verbal abuse is still considered part of domestic violence.
*Not real names