Sunday, March 22, 2020

RO'S RANT

It's bad enough that many are suffering from illness or the death of  a loved one.  It's sad that many have no income due to loss of jobs because of the fears of flu or COVID-19.  Now we can add ramped up domestic violence to the mix ,which includes women and men being locked in rooms so they are unable to leave their homes, or being beaten with no ability to get to a hospital for help.


Sheltering at home doesn't mean being confined under lock and key to one room.

I'm so angry right now that I'm crying, and like many of you, I feel helpless.  How in the world can these people be protected?  Because people have to be separated due to fears of getting sick, shelters are getting filled quickly, and many have been put up in hotels in an attempt to cope with the problem.  This is making a bad situation even worse.

In times of tragedy, it seems like we should be reaching out to those in need more than ever.  If you haven't seen or heard from family members or friends, now is the time to reach out to make sure they're okay.  Safety is critical, of course, along with common sense, but this may mean getting out of our comfort zones to knock on doors or peek in windows of the people we care about to ensure all is well. Someone's life may depend on it, please.





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  1. I knew this was going to happen, and it's going to get worse. Being stuck at home all the time is going to be increasingly stressful for some people, especially as it becomes clear that it's not going to end after just a few weeks like some people seem to think. And some people will take it out on others around them.

    Yes, people do need to be checking up on others who might be at risk, but I don't know about "peeking in windows". This is America. Peeking in somebody's window sounds like a good way to get shot.

    Local governments have a lot to deal with, but they need to increase penalties for domestic violence, and publicize doing so.

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    1. You were right on the money in knowing this would happen, and it saddens me so much. I'm screaming inside because of this nightmare. Yes, safety is critical in knocking on doors or windows, peeking in windows, etc. I'm with you on that. I've peeked in windows before, but I'm careful too because I'm not trying to be shot either, Infidel!(lol) Everyone should be cautious at all times. I agree that there should be harsher penalties for domestic violence. This is assault, or attempted murder in some cases. And yes, it may be frustrating, but taking it out on someone else is definitely not the thing to do for sure. Kindness is such a small word, but it has BIG meaning. Thanks for stopping by, my friend. Sending lots of hugs your way, and hope you are well. RO

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  2. I was talking with my daughter about how bad this all is for all of the people out there who do not have a good home life. So many children, women, and men are being forced into bad situations. I think it is a good time to check in on those we love and worry about.

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    1. It's really a horrible situation, and you're so right Carole. Let's check in just to say hello whenever possible. I think it could make a difference. Sending you and your family lots and lots of hugs, RO

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  3. Too true. I wonder what will happen in the next day and weeks when more tempers explode because of being cooped up at home. My heart goes out to those who suffer violence. Keep safe, hugs, Valerie

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    1. I agree, many people are unable to handle anger, but even worse are those people who wish to control or blame others and resort to violent acts. it's frightening to think about, and like you my heart goes out so many people Valerie. Sending many hugs to you, and stay well! RO

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  4. Yes, close quarters over a long period of time with an abusive spouse is a firekeg for domestic abuse. The government in our province has allocated more emergency funds to shelters to meet the expected higher demand on resources. It's a terrible situation.

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    1. You've hit the nail right on the head Darling Debra, and thanks to your province for thinking ahead to provide more needed assistance for shelters. That's a great idea, and much needed. I'm sending you lots and lots of hugs, and please stay safe. RO

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  5. It is no secret..I am very much in favour
    of the death penalty..not only for Premeditated
    Murder..but for Rape and Peodophiles..we as the
    upper, and most intelligent..(supposedly)..animals
    on the planet, should, by now, have reach a way,
    of living with each other..Peacefully..!

    The year is 2020..we are no better in understanding
    each other, or getting on with each other, or helping
    each other..BUT! Wait! It now takes the Corvovirus,
    for people to start helping, in ways that is quite
    surprising..but, it is happening..Thank God..! :).

    We're told to pray..we pray..l pray..People are still
    being abused, and worst, so are many children..!
    I can't write the words l'd like to here, the words that
    are going through my head..RO would kick me off her Blog..
    Never~the~less..l think them..Good or bad..!

    AND..Yes! Anyone out there..experiencing any sort of abuse,
    should step forward, and seek help..because there are people
    out there to help..They came forward in the Weinstein case..
    And, they succeeded to put an evil man..(who should have had
    the death penalty)..away for a long time..!

    Well done RO...Your a diamond..Well done..God Bless!

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    1. You're right Wonderful Willie, the kindness meter seems to be moving backward instead of the other way around, and I sure with it would change. Kindness should be displayed all the time, not just in times of crisis or tragedy. The abuse that happens to women, men, parents and children is horrific, and it rears its ugly head in so many ways. Yes, it takes courage to step forth to complain and seek help, but many people aren't there yet, or are deeply afraid. I hope that changes one day soon, and like you believe that coming forward can make a difference in many situations. Thanks so much for the very kind words. I appreciate you! Hugs and stay well. RO

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    2. I've just heard on the lunchtime news..
      That..Harvey Weinstein has tested positive
      for Coronavirus while in prison...He is now
      in isolation...
      So..You see..there is a God..Hopefully he'll
      suffer his death penalty in a different way..!

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    3. OMG - I need to check the news! This is unbelievable!!!!! Thanks for letting me know! Hugs, RO

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  6. I've been seeing resources shared on Twitter and suggestions for how to help people you suspect may be in a fragile place. Thank you for highlighting the issue.

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    1. Thank goodness for this, and shining the light in every place can hopefully save someone's life. I hpe you are well! Hugs, RO

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  7. I've been checking on my dad and step mom often and the elderly lady that lives 3 doors down from me. Things like this make me so sad.

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    1. Thank goodness they have you around Marvelous Mary. I know they love you and are so appreciative of your support. Hugs and more hugs, RO

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  8. I completely understand you, it's a scary time and it's very, very sad. I wish this would just end already but, the virus doesn't stop, it just keeps spreading around. So, we just gotta do our best to stay safe and, sane too.

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    1. I agree - the flu and Covid-19 are rough, and add to that any type of abusive behavior and things are even worse. Kindness is key. Stay way and be safe! Hugs, RO

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  9. People feel helpless in many respects.
    Now, with the probable collapse of economies, all that's left is kindness and reaching out to those vulnerable and those in need.
    Take care, Ro.

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    1. Kindness and support for each other is so critical Duta. You are right. Hang in there and you stay safe. Hugs, RO

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  10. I share your grief. And your rage.
    The Dignity Drive in on here at the moment. A time when we are asked to provide sanitary items for those who have to choose between dignity and food. AND THE STORES ARE ALMOST OUT OF THEM. This is yet another area the panic buyers have hit. So for those with neither the income nor the capacity to store things neither food nor sanitary items are available.
    We are all in this together and I do hope that kindness prevails.

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    1. OMG - I remember that you help out with this every year, and my heart goes out to those who have to choose for basic needs we all have. To make it worse is to NOT have it available at all. I agree, we are all in this together and showing support and kindness is so important. Stay safe, and sending lots of hugs. RO

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  11. What a horrifying situation. To any and all that find themselves in this situation, I trust they find a way out.
    A huge hug to you, bud.

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    1. I agree, Super Sandra. Everyone needs to find a way out that's safe and peaceful. Abuse continues to rear its ugly head in almost every situation. Hugs right back to you too! RO

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  12. They mentioned this on the news the other night. I didn't think about this angle of the lock down. Being an introvert, I think, what lock down? This is what I normally do. One introvert meme summed it all up. "I've been waiting my whole life for this!"

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    1. I can be social, and love meeting new people, but like you, I'm normally at home doing stuff, and have been cool with it. That meme works for so many of us for sure. I just wish people could be kinder - introvert or extrovert. Hope you're safe and doing well where you are Marvelous Mike. Hugs, RO

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  13. It's so sad. Some people have too much stress in their lives already and when the anger explodes it sure gets ugly in a hurry.

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    1. I agree - when anger explodes it can truly be fatal for many, and I hope that those in need can be protected or supported in every way possible. Sending lots of hugs your way! RO

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  14. https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2020/3/22/1929976/-Severe-child-abuse-cases-increase-at-Texas-hospital-amid-coronavirus-quarantine

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    1. This is just horrible!!!! We're hearing about kids who don't get enough to eat unless they're in school, and now this increase in abuse and violence. My heart goes out to these children who should be protected, not harmed. Thanks so much for sharing this Mike, and I hope you are doing well. Hugs, RO

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  15. There is so much need right now, and yes- how is this going to affect those who are vulnerable/ in abusive situations? That's not being talked about enough I'm sure. My mom lives alone and needs to be checked on daily as she's high- risk and has had health scares. I think in this day and age of so many people being separated and living alone or away from other family it definitely is going to be a problem! anyway thanks for highlighting a serious issue. and take care this week awesome Ro!!!

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    1. This is just a horrible situation, I agree, and I just wonder what will happen to those who are suffering in abusive situations. Thank goodness your mom has you around to check on her, but I imagine you still think about her all the time. I agree, my son and his family live in another state, so I totally understand what you mean when it comes to be separated from those we love. Definitely a challenge for sure. I sure hope that you are staying safe too, Gorgeous Greg. Sending some hugs your way! RO

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  16. I understand the social distancing and wanting to get this virus under control, but I do worry about people who are vulnerable, whether that's physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. I'm also worried about people with mental health problems. I have some, but thankfully I have people around me that understand and can do what they can to help, but not everyone has that, or just being locked up all the time is going to really negatively affect them...and that breaks my heart.

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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    1. Ditto, Lauren. I'm in total agreement. Protecting the vulnerable people around us is so important, and that includes strangers in need. I'm glad that there's support over at your end. Violence or isolation is definitely not the answer for sure. Practicing kindness is definitely the key. Sending lots of hugs our way! RO

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  17. "If you haven't seen or heard from family members or friends, now is the time to reach out to make sure they're okay." Wise words my dear friend, it doesn't take long to check in but yet so many don't...

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    1. Jimmy, I'm so glad to hear from you, and pray that all is well over in your neck of the woods with the family. Stay safe and be well, and I'm sending lots and lots of hugs to you! RO

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  18. This morning at a press conference our state Police Commissioner warned that there would be a rise in domestic violence and they will come down very hard on incidents.

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    1. I'm glad that this subject came up, and that someone is paying attention to the violence of domestic violence. I appreciate you sharing this Andrew, and hope that you are doing well. Hugs, RO

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  19. Very sad situation RO. Thanks for highlighting it.

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    1. Very sad Sami. It just seems so much easier to be kind than to take time to be cruel or abusive to others. Hope you're doing well! Hugs, RO

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  20. Stay safe. Stay healthy.
    Big hug.

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    1. Thanks so much Super Sandra, and I wish the same for you and your family too! Thank you for that hug, I could sure use it! Hugs, RO

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  21. Kindness and support for each other is so important.

    All the best Jan

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    1. I hope that you are doing well and staying safe, Jan, and yes kindness means everything for sure. Sending you some cyber hugs, RO

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  22. This is a dangerous time for all mankind...the whole world is involved. If ever there was a time to come together and focus all energies on a cure for Corona Virus it is now.
    Unfortunately there are those in charge that stand at a podium talking nonsense with their entourage definitely not six feet between them spouting words while all the time their only concern is the stock market ratings!!!
    God help us all when idiots try to do a job they aren't qualified for.

    Take care everyone and best wishes to all 💮
    Big Hugs RO ❤

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    1. You're right Jan, this is the time for kindness and support, not acts of rage or abuse from people. We need to all be willing to help each other whenever possible. I'm hoping that you and your family are staying safe and doing well, and I'm beyond thrilled to hear from you! Hugs, RO

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  23. It is a horrible time right now for a lot of people and it is going to get worse before it gets better. Domestic violence is already on the rise here and it makes me so sad to know people are going through too. Stay safe and healthy Ro. {hugs}

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    1. My goodness, it's so sad that domestic violence and abuse is on the rise where you are. I'm just shaking my head in frustration right now Jenea. You be safe and healthy too. Sending some hugs you way. RO

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  24. This whole situation is so hard and ugly for so many people and abusive situations just add another layer to it. I feel for those in abusive relationships or with abusive parents or event he homeless who can't get out of their situation.

    I don't know many people in my new area but I've been checking in with my old friends and neighbors in FL who are mostly elderly and are in riskier situations.

    Karen @ For What It's Worth

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    1. You're so right, and it's horrible for the homeless too. Thank goodness you've been able to reach out to friends and neighbors to make sure they're okay, and I'm sure they're glad to know that you are well too. Sending lots of hugs your way, Karen. RO

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  25. It is terrifying to think about all the repercussions that being housebound has. I'm worried about my grandmother in her assisted living facility. Not only have they closed to visitors but each of the residents is being confined to their rooms. I know this is for the safety of the residents and the virus is devastating to older people but I'm so worried about what this level of isolation will have on her mental state.

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    1. I can imagine that a horrible situation for your grandmother, and for you to not be able to check on her sounds like a nightmare. Our elderly friends and family need people, and I agree that their emotional sate is important. I know these measures are being used for safety, but it's still so rough to deal with. Sending many hugs of support your way. RO

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  26. It is a scary time we live in :/

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    1. That it is, for sure. Stay safe! Hugs, RO

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  27. Thanks for bringing attention to this, RO. It really is a frightening situation.

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    1. I agree, and I just wish there was a way I could turn into Bewitched or I Dream of Jeannie to eradicate any type of abuse Suzanne. Be wall, and sending lots of hugs your way. RO

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  28. I had intended to send you an e-mail, then hoped this would be quicker. I received your card, but had no way to let you know, since I had no internet. Thank you beyond belief, dear friend.

    I'm glad you brought this to the attention of others. At a news conference today, the county WANTS to enact a lock down, but have 26, YES 26 exceptions. Thankfully one of those is getting homeless people into temporary shelters and getting abused women and children to safety. I couldn't believe my county was that forward thinking. It's the same county (you might remember) that said they would place all the homeless in jail and make them pay a fine unless they left the area. It was before we hosted a big basketball tourney last year. How times seem to change!

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    1. Glad you received the card, and that you're doing well. I can imagine you're beyond thrilled that the Internet is back. That had to be a nightmare! I like that idea of protecting the homeless and abused who are desperately in need. Times do need to change as your county did. I haven't heard of anyone doing that here in NC, but it sure would be amazing and is so very much needed. I wish more people understood the plight of those who are homeless. You are so wonderful, and I thank you! RO

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  29. RO, that's an aspect I never even thought about and you're so right...for the people stuck in that situation, I can only hope they have help.

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    1. I agree, I sure hope these people get the help and support they need. Being locked in a room is definitely cruel and unusual punishment for sure, Rain. I hope you are doing well, and I'm sending some cyber hugs your way. RO

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    2. Late to reply...we are absolutely 100% doing well! Sending hugs back to you!
      xxx

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  30. Hey RO! I read your question from my T Tuesday post. I said you don't need SUN and you don't need HEAT to make sun tea. You apparently thought I meant I had no heat. That is NOT the case. Apparently, I didn't make myself clear because I have plenty of heat, lots of blankets, and warm furry bodies to snuggle with. Sorry if I misled you, dear.

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    1. Thank goodness and yay!! I'm glad that was a misread on my part, and that you're nice and toasty with blankets and fur babies. Be well my friend and sending some hugs your way. RO

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  31. This whole situation is ugly for sure and I think even though this virus is scary, there is a greater danger than the actual virus. And we need to find the balance to see that all needs are taken care of with each other and check up on one another. Because even introverts are struggling with this. I just hope and pray this virus will die down soon and we can get back to living life again.

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    1. I agree, it's ultimately about people and caring and kindness and support. So much going on, but I can't wrap my arms around a person abusing someone further by locking them in a room. That's just cruel and doesn't help anyone. I'm the middle of the line and 1/2 intro and 1/2 extrovert. I'm that person behind you in the store chatting on about nothing(lol), and I miss that. I sure hope that you are well, and sending lots of hugs your way. RO

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  32. What a great reminder, RO. Sobering for sure. I work for a non-profit and we are considered essential so our case managers still check in our clients and I'm so grateful for that. People need people, there's no getting around that. We need each other. Thank you for writing this post.

    Elsie

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  33. Great message, RO. I've been trying to text those I care about and check in once and a while. I've also offered to be chat/text buddies with folks on line if they need a little extra checkin. It's a very tough time for so many. *air hugs*

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    1. I love that you take the time on Twitter to send out a quick message every day. That way we know you're doing well, and it's a great way to check on others. Kudos and lots of hugs, RO

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  34. Thank you for sharing this reminder. Many of us needed this. This is really thought provoking and good to remember this and think seriously about it.

    Wishing you all the best!

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    1. Wishing you the best, and please stay safe! Sending hugs and more hugs! RO

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  35. Sheltered at home certainly does not mean "In one room, under lock and key" reminds me of this Japanese war movie I saw with a character Louis Zamperini,. I looked it up-'Unbroken'. Check it out sometime. Louis gets thrown in private cell.

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    1. Thanks so much for this info. I'm going to look for this and give it a watch for sure. Please stay safe, and sending lots of hugs your way. RO

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